In this age where social networking and reaching out to as many people as you can is the norm in the current scenario, I fail to understand that actually how many people are connected to us when we really need them. We end up scrapping, chatting with so many people each day, seldom wondering that where those talks are heading and whether those talks are actually adding value to our lives. And all this hype about staying connected is actually what I really want to do or is it that the society has imposed on me. This thought has been pondering in my head for quite some time and it made me go back to my childhood days where I had lots of friends and we used to fight, laugh, play and have a ball each and every day. I have lost touch with many of those friends. Then as I grew up my friendships became stronger and even the groups became larger. But in that huge crowd there were those one or two with whom I connected with my heart. Whom I could talk to any time of the day or night and with whom I could share my weirdest dreams with the assurance that they would not laugh. They were the ones who supported me despite the fact that I had been mean to them. Then as I grew older, my impressions grew stronger, the world became more competitive and I didn’t know whom to trust and whom not to. I made more number of friends and got all the more confused and got lost. I decided to stop making friends because I didn’t trust them. I hardened in life and decided to not do anything for people, that no one is a friend here, true friends don’t exist and all that crap. But while I was in this whole zone of thinking I came across a set of people who were exactly like me. They cared for me the same way I used to care for my friends when I was small. I don’t know what they liked in me. I think they are genuinely good people. But they helped me get back to my true self. Keeping relations and sticking to your friends. And these are your true friends. How do you recognize them? They are exactly like you. They think the same thing as you do. They enjoy doing the same thing as you. You generally discuss same things. And they are ready to motivate you even at the most silliest of your thoughts. They are your true friends. Please recognize them fast or they will be lost in this rat race and then the only thing that will remain with you is regret. Coz you would have lost true gems of your life. They are the most dependable people and will stand by you, come what may.
This one is dedicated to my “MBA Group” – Baby, Nalineesh, Punnu
Thanks for being my true friends. Everything that you all have done means a lot to me. Taking care of my likings, tolerating my nonsense during projects, my stupid statements “I am not here to make friends”, my nakhras of not coming for outings and always making bahanas and lastly for making my birthday so special that even I could not imagine. I am lucky to have friends like you.
Saturday, April 4, 2009
Thursday, April 2, 2009
Soulmates
I am a person who firmly believes in the constitution of true love and soul mates. Idealistic relationships are very difficult to even imagine in our dreams and I have many people who criticize me by saying that they don’t exist in today’s time. Many of my friends say that I should have been born in the 18th century when they hear my thoughts and aspirations on the topic of love. But I do believe that every couple has the potential to become a soul mate. Soul mates definitely have some spiritual or karmic connections. Because every couple doesn’t end up being a soul mate. Our Hindi movies have depicted such soul mates superbly and history has many examples of soul mates. Typically people will argue that you never end up marrying your soul mate or love stories always end up in pain or death. But that’s not the case. Because for the two people who are soul mates, they don’t think that it was a journey of pain. It was always a journey of bliss because every breath they took and every road they walked was devoted to first thinking of their partner and then both of them together and never about themselves. It’s the people/society who views their lives; feel that it’s been a journey of pain. But for both of them it has purely been of love and devotion.
The recent movies which have really inspired me on the topic of soul mates have been Veer – Zaara and Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi. The characters in the movie depict the true nature required for couples to become soul mates.
When we analyze Veer-Zaara it starts off with the two people falling in love without knowing backgrounds, castes or any other factors. It’s like as if the entire world was conspiring to make them fall in love. Veer Pratap Singh expresses his love to Zaara despite knowing that Zaara is already engaged. They both realize that their love for each other is true love and all that is important for both of them is to see each other’s happiness. That’s exactly what’s required to make a couple reach the stage of soul mates. Coz throughout their life after they knew that they were in love their sole aim in life was the other person’s happiness. Neither could see a tear in each other’s life. That’s why they devoted their lives fulfilling their partner’s dreams. And both their journey was a journey of bliss. So even if the end would have showcased that they don’t meet, they would still be called soul mates.
Same way if you take Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi, both start their lives together as if it is a compromise and love is only one – sided. But the one sided love is true love. Despite the fact that the Tani doesn’t believe or recognize it. But Suri displays the love of a soul mate where his only aim in life is Taani’s happiness. And he sees God in her. It’s later in the movie that Tani cannot understand how someone can love a person so much. And when she starts seeing God in Suri she immediately forgets Raj and goes back to her soul mate.
Critics and the general masses don’t believe that such stories exist in real – life because they are too good to be true. But when you study and analyze these movies in depth they have had more pain than happiness when looked from the outside world. But the journey has only been of love and that’s why they are so unique and amazingly inspiring.
Now how do you bring to practice this in real life? Firstly true love has to have a spiritual / karmic touch. It’s like both partners need to believe and have that gut feel that there has been some external force conspiring to get them together. And each partner needs to always think about the other partner first and nothing else. That’s when the entire life together will be a journey of love. It need not be without pain but it will truly be one of bliss. It’s like you should always have one thought in your mind that whatever you do and whatever you say should make your partner happy and content. It is very difficult to practice but the steps can be taken slowly and steadily and over the period of years you will realize that there are no confrontations and no arguments. It’s like you glance at one another and there is a feeling of oneness between the two individuals. Those couples are soul mates in true sense.
The recent movies which have really inspired me on the topic of soul mates have been Veer – Zaara and Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi. The characters in the movie depict the true nature required for couples to become soul mates.
When we analyze Veer-Zaara it starts off with the two people falling in love without knowing backgrounds, castes or any other factors. It’s like as if the entire world was conspiring to make them fall in love. Veer Pratap Singh expresses his love to Zaara despite knowing that Zaara is already engaged. They both realize that their love for each other is true love and all that is important for both of them is to see each other’s happiness. That’s exactly what’s required to make a couple reach the stage of soul mates. Coz throughout their life after they knew that they were in love their sole aim in life was the other person’s happiness. Neither could see a tear in each other’s life. That’s why they devoted their lives fulfilling their partner’s dreams. And both their journey was a journey of bliss. So even if the end would have showcased that they don’t meet, they would still be called soul mates.
Same way if you take Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi, both start their lives together as if it is a compromise and love is only one – sided. But the one sided love is true love. Despite the fact that the Tani doesn’t believe or recognize it. But Suri displays the love of a soul mate where his only aim in life is Taani’s happiness. And he sees God in her. It’s later in the movie that Tani cannot understand how someone can love a person so much. And when she starts seeing God in Suri she immediately forgets Raj and goes back to her soul mate.
Critics and the general masses don’t believe that such stories exist in real – life because they are too good to be true. But when you study and analyze these movies in depth they have had more pain than happiness when looked from the outside world. But the journey has only been of love and that’s why they are so unique and amazingly inspiring.
Now how do you bring to practice this in real life? Firstly true love has to have a spiritual / karmic touch. It’s like both partners need to believe and have that gut feel that there has been some external force conspiring to get them together. And each partner needs to always think about the other partner first and nothing else. That’s when the entire life together will be a journey of love. It need not be without pain but it will truly be one of bliss. It’s like you should always have one thought in your mind that whatever you do and whatever you say should make your partner happy and content. It is very difficult to practice but the steps can be taken slowly and steadily and over the period of years you will realize that there are no confrontations and no arguments. It’s like you glance at one another and there is a feeling of oneness between the two individuals. Those couples are soul mates in true sense.
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